My Girlfriend Had an Abortion and is Struggling. How Can I Offer Support?| Options Medical Clinic

When someone we care deeply about is in pain, it can be a heartbreaking experience. Watching your girlfriend struggle after an abortion may leave you feeling uncertain, concerned, and eager to help, but unsure of where to start.

Abortion can be a complex experience with various emotions – from sadness and guilt to confusion and regret – arising in the weeks or even years that follow. Your presence can be crucial as she processes what she’s going through.

Be Her Rock

One of the best things you can do for her is simply to be there. Listen without judgment, creating a space where she feels safe to express any emotions she may be holding inside. She may need time to articulate how she feels, so give her the freedom to speak at her own pace.

Sometimes, your presence without words – just showing up for her – can be a comforting reminder that she’s not alone.

Encourage Her to Prioritize Her Mental Health

Let her know it’s ok to set some time aside for her mental and emotional well-being. If she’s open to it, consider suggesting that she speak with a counselor or therapist who specializes in post-abortion care.

Having a professional who can provide her with additional tools and perspectives to help her work through her feelings can be helpful. Knowing you support her in taking these steps can make a world of difference.

This will also provide her with a second soundboard to voice concerns she may not feel comfortable expressing to you.

Take Care of Yourself, Too

In addition, find healthy ways to care for yourself. Supporting a loved one through a tough time can be emotionally taxing. You may be experiencing a broad range of emotions as well, so it’s important not to neglect yourself.

Don’t hesitate to talk to someone you trust about what you’re feeling. It’s okay to ask for help, and doing so enables you to offer more consistent support as healing continues.

Pregnancy Support

If you and your girlfriend are navigating an unexpected pregnancy or seeking resources, Options Medical Clinic is here for you. We offer free pregnancy testing, ultrasounds, and resources to support you both as you navigate the road ahead.